Breaking the Ice

I'm ovulating this weekend.  We could spend the weekend like rabbits, but we're going away to Philly and staying with friends.  Plus, we're not sure that we are ready for another pregnancy yet.  There's so much to talk about and we are just starting to break the ice on discussing pregnancy, babies, children.

We talked tonight about what each of us might go through after having a baby.  Andy is so funny and not like other guys.  He wants everything to  be fair and equitable.  Doesn't want me to breast feed all the time - he wants to feed and share in the "chores".  Which is fine with me!  I'm a little scared that he has all of these pre-conceived notions in his head about how things are going to be.  What scares me is when things don't go his way, he tends to flip out and not function.  I'm scared that I may have post partum and not be able to help with anything - which will cause him to flip out, and cause me to withdraw even more.  It's a vicious circle I can see happening.    But at least we're talking about this.  Which means we would be able to recognize the pattern if it starts to happen and hopefully be able to fix it or at least address it. 

Is it healthy to imagine how things are going to be after we have kids?  He wants things to be similar to how they are now and I'm afraid things are going to be completely different.  Part of me doesn't want to imagine how things will be because I think they will be completely with a baby.  I don't want to get these preconceived notions in my head and be horribly let down if they are opposite. 

So we'll keep talking and maybe wait until next month.